On October 12th (Columbus Day) GREG and I will have been married for 13 years. So we decided to have a FQ Bouquet Give-away!
If you leave each of us a positive relationship tip or a favorite thing about YOUR relationship - a different comment on each of our blogs - we'll give you two (2) chances to win, the nice, fresh and wonderful bouquet pictured above. It contains 13 Fat Quarters of funky prints.
Trouble thinking of a tip? Here's a couple of my favorites:
Brooke's relationship tips:
1. Share EVERYDAY with your loved one- laughter, joy, sadness, thoughts, silliness, hurts, touches, hobbies, looks, glances, space and time. It's ALL so important.
2.General Rule: For every negative you say or do - it takes 3 positives to overcome it. So compliment often no matter how small and jump in there and do those little things for your sweetie- even if it's just knowing to lay out the socks she can never seem to find in the morning or hiding "hello!" post-it's in the oddest places for him to find.
Rules, regulations, conditions, catches (Greg said we had to post these).
- 1 comment= 1 entry
- 2 comments (1 on EACH blog) = 2 entries
- must be POSITIVE tip
- we must have way to contact you, if you are a no reply blog reader leave your email address.
- give away entries must be received by 12:00 pm (central time) on October 12th.
- New followers are always welcome, but will not increase your chance of winning
- We'd love for you to blog about our bouquet and tip request but it will not help your chances of winning
- Theres a lot of conditions aren't there?
- No purchase required
- Batteries not included
- No refunds if raining
- Must be able to leave a comment (or 2)
- Crystal vase not included
- Almost done now.
- Free cat if you want one (Greg - you know I can't give up my furry babies!)
- International Bloggers welcome (we'll ship worldwide!!)
- Winner drawn October 12th after we get home from work.
Aaaah... 1st commentator for Brooke, too!!!!
ReplyDeleteMen need their "space". I didn't realize that till later in our relationship. Sooo, now when he's not very talkative - I used to think he was upset with me and kept pestering him about it - I go downstairs to my sewing studio, for a bit and everyone's a much happier camper!
*grin*
When he is upset, give him a gentle kiss and say "I will be _____ if you need me" then let him come to you. If you were fighting, however, after 20 minutes, go say "I'm sorry, I do still love you even if you are an _ _ _" (that last part works best if you ONLY Say it in your head. )
ReplyDeleteby "last part" I meant "even if you are an _ _ _"
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the upcoming anniversary...and the prize you two are giving is LOVELY. I would have said something about respecting HIS hobbies as much as you respect your own as my tip, but since the two of you have the SAME hobby, I guess you already do that....so maybe I should suggest that you don't raid his fabric stash (unless you ask him first). What might look like a useless scrap to you may very well be something for which he has a definite plan! Seriously, you seem to have some very good ideas already on relationships...and I'm sure you will have many MANY more anniversaries!!!
ReplyDeleteOh, yes....Brooke....you can relax if I come up as the winner, because I do NOT want a cat!!! Been there/done that....and will let someone else get the furry!!! LOL
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea for a give away! Love it! My tip - Always communicate, about the big things, but especially about the small things, you both understand eachother better :-)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your anniversary!
Brooke Congrats on 13 years.
ReplyDeleteMy tip for you is the same as for Greg be honest with each other. little secrets can turn into big deals.
HUGS! Carin
I love your rules...they made me laugh.....Here is my tip...never go to bed mad at each other...at least call a truce and snuggle anyway.......Melinda
ReplyDeleteWhenever a decision needs to be made and you are of differing ideals, always bow to his final word; he is head of the home and will give an account. YOu are required to fall in beside him; let him know that you are behind him and support his role.
ReplyDeleteWhoa Nelly! One thing Brooke has NEVER done is bowed to my final word. This is a joint relationship and even though we may have differing opinions we come to a decision that we can both live with. Of all the books I've read that were written after women were given the right to vote and think for themselves, not one has said she's required to fall in beside me.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a union of 2 INDIVIDUALS. 2 opinions, 2 belief systems, differing thoughts and feelings. If she gives up HER opinions, beliefs, thoughts and feelings just because thats what she's supposed to do, she loses who she is and the relationship becomes a dictatorship. I consider Brooke to be my EQUAL, okay better than me on most days(except when it comes to the laundry), and I'm okay with that.
One thing you should never tell a woman's advocate is that she's required to fall in beside her man and bow to his final word. Men can be, and quite often are, WRONG in their thinking. Which could lead to disaster later on. We respect that your beliefs are yours and each relationship is different, what works for you may not work for others, and what works for us would SHOCK some people.
Now I have to think of a different tip!!! is this positive enough...when you feel like shooting him .... Don't!
ReplyDeleteKeep it fun. Surpise him at the door in something sexy. LOL. Go out on a date with your lingerie on underneath and then just before you get in the car show him what your wearing under your outfit. Keep the closeness in the relationship and do something he likes to do. Sit with him when he is watching something you don't like and ask questions about it. They like to know they are special as well and this is one of the ways to show him.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your 13th.
Congratulations on 13 yrs. with Greg! Whew! How did you make it?? LOL!
ReplyDeleteHe sounds fun....so try to laugh with each other over something silly everyday!
Thanks for the chance to win the bouquet!
Everyone has their quirks. Enjoy those little quirks in your partner, instead of complaining about them. They truly are the things you miss when you are apart, and they remind you of that special person and why they are so special.
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ReplyDeleteMy husband suggests I let him have the last words in any 'discussion' we have.....the last words......"Yes Dear!"
ReplyDeleteWorks for me!
Seriously, let 'em have their time out too...we have our quilting, they need their fishing, hunting, whatever it is that floats their boat! and when they do, we shouldn't feel like they chose if over spending time with us.....if they keep their sanity, makes living with them all the more fun!!!!
'o) Wendy B
Congratulations Brooke... I'm sure you guys have figured out what works and what doesn't.. I told Greg to always treat you like his best friend, I'd give the same advice to you.. Sometimes we take each other for granted. I have two don't so I won't let Greg send the cat if I win. :) Enjoy that sense of humor, my dh is so fun and witty and he makes me laugh every day. Sometimes it get annoying but I love him anyway.
ReplyDeletethat was supposed to be I have two dogs, so they won't go for a cat..
ReplyDeleteBrooke, I know I already commented on your hubby's page, but I'll tell you the same thing: on October 12th, my husband and I will be celebrating our one year anniversary. Eerie coincidence. So, from one marriage newb to a marriage pro, I would suggest many little thoughtful things during the day. For instance: if David's in the shower and I think of it, I'll sneak his towel into the drier for a few minutes before he gets out. Then I'll throw a cat on him. It's really all about balance :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the giveaway!
Congratulations! Our tips? When you're having a serious talk, THINK about what you're going to say before you say it. Sometimes things you say in haste are interpreted as an entirely different meaning than what was meant. And give each other some 'cooling off' time before approaching one another for another serious talk.
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Hi Brooke..I hope this is of help for both of you..
ReplyDeleteBe sure to forgive each other when problems arise. The more that you let a problem stew inside of you, the more likely you are to blow up when the issue comes up in conversation.
That's not fair for your partner, so discuss things as they need to be discussed, and then leave the issues in the past.
Congrats to both of you,
Have a great week and God Bless,
^A^ngel
don't take each other for granted. I have been married 20 years and I do as many things for my hubby as he does for me. Congratlations!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! and many, many more. My dh and I celebrated our 50th this past Jan. Advice !!!! Be a Best Friend and respect each other. Never never go to bed mad at each other and give each other some space
ReplyDeleteOh, another tip. When he puts on "sexy" underwear and dances for you, try real hard to not LAUGH.
ReplyDeletewell done on 13 years, we have been married 26 years, and my tip, never go to sleep angry with one another, as one, you don't get a good nights sleep, and two, all it does is fester overnight and makes matters worse.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your 13 years,
Gill
Hubby and I have been married 38 years this December. My advice? Listen....(or if you aren't listening, don't let him see your eyes glaze over).
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on 13 wonderful years - may you have many, many more! My tip for you, Brooke, is to keep laughing at his jokes.
ReplyDeleteCongratulation on your 13th anniversary. (BTW your vase is a cute way to display the fabric) I saw a saying one time that said "Always kiss me goodnight" and that's a good thing to remember.
ReplyDeleteGreetings from Estonia! And happy anniversary :) You have lovely idea to celebrate it and fun too :)
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Brooke, Love the blogs of yours and Greg's. He found my blog a couple of days ago and I have been watching both of your blogs since. I am new to blogging, but love your site and am still learning. My tip for you....Be kind, be respectful and listen to his opinions. Don't always have to win every argument. My husband and I have been married for only 5 years. His first wife would always have to be right and would never compromise. When he found me, he loved my gentle and kind way about me. I know we can't change, but we can try to be as compassionate as possible remembering that life is short. Good luck to you and Greg for a long life together.
ReplyDeleteTake time to communicate each and every day if only the last thing before bed.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary
Wow, what a great giveaway. Tip- if we have time, through the day, any time, we like to go to our bedroom and just talk, catch up. We shut the door and E knows he can't come in for 10 mins and we really talk, nothing else going on. lol
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your 13 years of marriage. And what a delightful way to celebrate it, with a giveaway.
ReplyDeleteHere are some of our tips for a happy marriage, of which we just celebrated #22.
1) Talk each day, really talk. For us it is at dinner time, or over breakfast.
2) Support each other. Informally, I think we both realize there are times to give & take. We've grown to be able to anticipate when the other needs each other for support & encouragement.
3) Be positive. Socialize with positive people.
4) Date. Enjoy time with friends and family, but be sure to block time for just the two of you to do things you both enjoy!
5) Adopt role models for happy marriages. Early on we selected couples who had been married 30+ years and we felt had happy marriages that we wanted to emulate. Informally we interviewed and looked for insights on what made their marriage so successul, and ways to bring in our learnings to our marriage.
6) Encourage time alone with girl friends & guy friends. Not every minute of a marriage needs to be spent doing things as a couple....just remember to thank the other for their support of this free time (and $$).
7) Appreciate each other and let each other know how much you appreciate them. Don't take each other for granted.
Again, congratulations on #13.
SewCalGal
www.sewcalblogspot.com
Have a wonderful anniversary- With each year, may you enjoy good health, happiness and prosperity together.
ReplyDeleteRemember to tell your spouse that you love them each and every day. Laugh together and find an interest that you can share and grow together.
Warmest regards from a Western Canadian Quilter,
Anna
Hello and have a wonderful 13th anniversary. I'll fix one Brooke's relationship tips, a little bit and I'm sure it works too. Brooke said: Share everyday with your loved one, spend time with other people, not only with him and alone with yourself too!!!, , that way when you meet again, you both will be sharing your points of views, or telling each other funny things about a certain thing.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary, Brooke! My tip: If you win BINGO, break it to Greg gently (and maybe share an FQ with him!).
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary! I've been married for over 30 years, and I think one of the best tips has been that Happiness is a choice, and to always be willing to forgive.
ReplyDeleteFavorite tip -- let each other have their hobbies! Thanks for the chance and happy anniversary!
ReplyDeleteLet's see, never go to bed mad at each other. Always kiss each other good night and say you love them. And always cook them their favorite meal on their birthday.
ReplyDeleteALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS take time for each other. Alone time, talk about what each of you are doing and ask about what the other is telling you. It leads to understanding....
ReplyDeleteCongrads! We'll be celebrating 23 this month!
at our wedding the priest told us 5 little magical words that we should remember and use often as possible...
ReplyDelete"Honney, maybe you were right" ;) and althought sometimes they're very hard to say - they do help smooth things over.
Congratulations & Love from Texas! ~bonnie
Happy anniversary. Let each of you have your own hobbies and don't question the cost. Mine is quilting his is a sports car. (that's a lot of fabric!) Let him read the Sat. morning paper and me blog.
ReplyDeleteOkay, so I left two comments on your husbands blog, a suggestion for him and you...not knowing there were two blogs until I read his blog further, which i truly enjoyed...and now I am reading yours...and enjoying it just as much.
ReplyDeleteOkay....so...I told him that when I get upset with myhusband and things are just grumpy around the house, i do a random act of kindness, seems to settle my heart and the meaness that grows in me....heheeee...